Getting over someone?

Hi! Okay so this post is all about.. ask from the title. What to do when you have a crush on this guy aaand.. you like him(ofcourse!). And you’re feeling that crushingness feeling, but he doesn’t like you back. He could’ve told you, he could’ve told his friends, or your friend(in my case) or you could just feel it. You know, you just felt that he’s not into you. I guess we’ll start this out with a personal story to revolve this blog post around. This is my first year in college and there’s this guy in my block.. and I had a crush on him. We’re not going to mention any names, because what if he sees this one day and he’ll be like “ughh you do a blog post about me..” NO. But really.. no. Anyways so I don’t even know what I saw in him, he’s not even handsome, hot, cool or something?! It just happened that one day, he’s all I think about. So I really like this guy and he doesn’t like me, the worst part is.. he likes my friend. You know I spent nights, more like wasted nights thinking about it.. torturing myself with sad love songs and stuff, it made me sad, it made me angry, but I didn’t cry no that will never happen. :-j And feeling that my friend likes him too was just really heartbreaking for my part. I wanna make this blog post in a mindset of what would’ve I wanted someone to tell me, or what would’ve been good for me to hear at the time I was going through all of that. I think it would’ve been good to hear that it doesn’t matter, that this guy does not matter. He didn’t like me, he didn’t want me, and if this guy doesn’t like you, he does not want you, then he is not the one for you. But I’m not telling that when you like someone and he likes u back, then he’s the one for you, no. Ahh anyways I wish I could’ve seen, you know that, I’m gonna find someone who loves me and who cherishes me and who respects me. And it was just for that moment in time I felt like this guy is perfect, this guy is perfect for me. If he doesn’t like you, if he is not willing to be there for you, then he’s not the one for you. I think girls get so attached to these guys who they have crushes with(even me), then they’ll start thinking like.. “Omg he’s the one for me!” “I want him to be my boyfriend talaga!” “We both love blah blah, we’re meant to be!” “Though he doesn’t want me, i still want him to be my boyfriend!” Then they forget that that’s not what a relationship is. A relationship is not one person chasing after the other. That’s not what a relationship is all about. That’s more like pursuing obsession..(WOW AS IF I KNOW SOMETHING ABOUT RELATIONSHIP) a relationship is two together. And the other person HAS to care about you as well. And if this person doesn’t like you and doesn’t feel that way, you cannot have a relationship with them. And let me tell you there is nothing worse than being with someone who doesn’t care about you and doesn’t love you. But if u just have a crush on a guy, you’re admiring him from a far, and then you find out that he doesn’t like you. You just have to be grateful that you found out then. That he has not been leading you on this whole time. Ok say he has been leading u on, and you’ve thought he really liked you, and then all of a sudden you find out that he doesn’t like you. Well you know what you’ve found out at the time before you got way over in your head, yes it would be heartbreaking, and yes it could hurt you. But it could hurt you more in the long run. And you just need to take that, and u need to move on.

You know ugh it’s just I think back on.. all the time that I spent worrying, all the time I spent getting angry, all the time I spent being sad over this corn dog guy. I could’ve been spending that time doing something productive, rather than getting depressed and letting my self-esteem just plum it. You cannot allow the guy to do debilitate you, to weaken you, and the minute you sorta getting sad over this guy not liking you, you’re just giving him so much power in your life. And that’s a horrible horrible thing to do, you cannot allow yourself to think that way. The other point why I made this blog post is to tell you that you should not change yourself for a guy to like you. If this guy does not like you for who you are, then you need to move on, you need to get him out of your life, you need to stop thinking about him, you need to focus on yourself and move on. It would be a tremendously atrocious mistake for you to make, by trying to force yourself to change, so maybe you’ll have a chance for that guy in liking you. In life, there will be people who wouldn’t like you. And I guess that was the mindset that I had back then, before life humbled me and made me realize things. You know I thought everyone had to like me, and I couldn’t just understand why, but that’s the way the world works. There will always be people who would not like you. They might be jealous of you, they might not have the same morals and values that you do. There will just be people u know, are not compatible with your personality. And that goes with guys too. Not every guy is going to like you, because not every guy is the one for you. There will be this one guy out there that’ll be perfect for you, who will love u for who you really are. And unfortunately you’re gonna have to go through a lot of guys to figure that out. You know, you’re gonna have to see what works for you and what doesn’t work for you. And what doesn’t work for you, use that as a learning experience. If a guy doesn’t like you it’s for a reason. Everything happens for a reason nga diba, you know, maybe I went through that months of heartache so that I could sit here and tell you about it. And that’s completely fine. It’s completely worthwhile. It might seem at the moment that it’s just horrible and you’re not gonna find this guy for you, and that’s not true. I’m telling you that I’m here sitting in front you telling u that I’ve survived. And you will too, you need to take this time, take a step back and focus on yourself. Okay? Just stop fantasizing about them! Stop thinking abou him because he’s not thinking about you. They are not important. We’re young, there will still be a lot of guys that’ll come in our lives. But for now, all we have to do is enjoy our youth. Because we’ll never be young again as we are right now. Learn from the experience and come out stronger. And learn to accept. Accept the fact that this guy doesn’t like you. Forget him, he’s not worth it. Though there will be times that it will all come rushing back, just don’t mind it. Focus on the important things and forget the rest. Because there is someone out there for you who will treat you right. You just have to wait for this guy to come. But for now you just have to pick yourself up and move on. Because there are so many more opportunities out there and you will be happy one day I promise you. Because I was so sad, and I just realize that being sad is a waste of time. Life becomes so much better when you decide not to care. Just live for the moment and don’t let the drama bring you down.. 🙂 I may have not found the one for me yet, hello I’m just 16 years old?! BUT, big but, I have a crush on this guy I get to see everyday!! I’ve been noticing him ever since and he’s really cute and i’m going to see him again tomorrow!!!! 🙂 But that’s not the point, the point is my admiration to him is helping me to forget this guy I’ve been liking for months! Great I must say. Though i have no idea if he knows I exist. But that doesn’t matter, because time will come. And if something is bound to happen. Then it will.. Just wait. 🙂 <3